Mature relationship: Media dictates so much in today’s world — including relationships. Whether portraying unrequited love, forbidden love or passionate love, the media’s ideas of love all have something in common: drama. After all, drama drives the media. But, guess what? When you’re in a dramatic relationship, this reality isn’t so appealing. Dramatic relationships are just plain sh*tty, and there’s nothing romantic or alluring about that. Real relationships, to be quite honest, could almost be considered boring, and the media doesn’t value “boring.” For years, I bought into the idea that a relationship needed some type of drama to be legitimized. As I’m settling down, I’m realizing how truly wrong and exhausting that mentality was.
For the first time in… well, ever, I’m in a healthy, mature relationship. It’s different than previous relationships I’ve had because this one is real. It is solid. It is stable. It is everything I’ve ever wanted, and everything I didn’t know I needed.
It’s also everything I ran away from in the past because it just seemed too “boring.” Only now am I realizing that there is a difference between a boring relationship and a stable, mature one.
1. Being your significant other’s partner isn’t hard.
Until recently, I always struggled when I was in a relationship. Feelings of uncertainty and anxiety were overwhelmingly normal while feeling secure in the relationship was not.
Maybe this is obvious, but it shouldn’t be the case. Being someone’s partner should come easily rather than feel like a chore or a responsibility.
2. You don’t have to be in contact 24/7.
Part of an adult relationship is realizing that each person has his or her own world, separate of one another. This means that being together all the time or constantly texting just isn’t feasible, and that is OK.