Things you’re doing that make people dislike you: There are plenty of ways to turn people off. In fact, most of them don’t require very much effort. All it takes is one look at your social media activity or a casual in-person introduction to make someone realize they just don’t want to spend time with you. Generally, you’ve only got a few seconds to make someone want to spend more time with you. Everything matters — from your last name to the smell of your sweat (gross, we know). We’ve rounded up some of the most common social turn-offs online and in person, as well as how to avoid them. Read on and see which ones you’ve been guilty of.
Below, we rounded up various scientific findings on the traits and behaviors that make people dislike you, both online and in person.
1. Sharing too many photos on Social Media
If you’re the kind of person who shares snapshots of your honeymoon, cousin’s graduation, and dog dressed in a Halloween costume all in the same day, you might want to stop. A 2013 study found that posting too many photos on Social Media can hurt your real-life relationships. “This is because people, other than very close friends and relatives, don’t seem to relate well to those who constantly share photos of themselves,” lead study author David Houghton, of Birmingham Business School, said in a release.
Specifically, friends don’t like it when you’ve got too many photos of family, and relatives don’t like it when you’ve got too many photos of friends. Ben Marder, of the University of Edinburgh, also worked on the study, and warned: “Be cautious when sharing and think how it will be perceived by all the others who may see it. Although sharing is a great way to better relationships, it can also damage them.”